Now I want to share with you the facts, and also my advice about something you probably ask yourself a lot of times:
“Should” I Date Others During My Long Distance Relationship?
Well, first I will give you some facts (scientific facts!) And then I will give my personal advice to you.
Relationships and the author of the most extensive analysis of
long distance relationships ever completed,”Long Distance Relationships: The Complete Guide”.
He is is a graduate of Stanford Medical School and Purdue University’s Clinical Psychology Program and he combines his
scientific experience,interviews with hundreds of couples in
long distance relationships and his own personal experience into this comprehensive book.
Ok, now you know who Dr. Gregory Guldner is, I will provide you the scientific facts about Dating Others Throughout an LDR.
Dr. Gregory Guldner made 2 research, and here are his results:
– 30 percent of couples that dated others broke up
– 27% of couples that did not broke up
– 70% of couples who didn’t talk about this issue broke up.
– 15% of those who outdated others survived LDR
– 48 percent of those who didn’t survived LDR
you will say.
Ok, let me explain to you the significance of these numbers:
In the first study: the 6-month longitudinal study we can see that:
The Long Distance Relationship couples who outdated others, in a
Period of 6 months, 30% of them broke up.
In the Long Distance Relationship couples that did not dated
Others, in a span of 6 months, 27 percent of them awakened.
And notice this, 70 percent of couples who did not discuss this issue
In the next study:”Cross sectional study”, the relationships
That at one point were long distance (such as the one you and me are
living now), but that now are reunited (the thing you and me want
more) as planned, we could see that:
Just 15% of those who outdated others survived LDR and 48% of those
Who did not survived LDR.
Time, like six months, it doesn’t make to much difference for the
success of the Long Distance Relationship, to date others.
What makes the difference here is not being honest and clear
with the Long Distance Partner, 70% of couples who did not talk about this issue broke up!
Now, for long periods of time, relationship others is very very danger
For the achievement of your Long Distance Relationship! Only 15% survived LDR!
However, what makes you”want” to others while you are in your Long Distance Relationship?
Is the lake of sex? Is because you like to feel close with another person?
as Close Relationships!
What you need to do is to know how to”make love” at phone
Or to write erotic letters, or send erotic pictures or videos to
Now about my own experience?
Do you think that because I am at a Long Distance Relationship I do not feel sexually attracted by other people?
But do I think about the idea of me dating others while I’m within my
Long Distance Relationships?
No, no, no. Allow me to tell you something. At my job there is a man,
That I do not know to describe this, but between him and me there’s such a strong sexual chemistry.
Also a strong sexual chemistry, but I think when I made sex with that man from my job, I guess I would be something even more powerful than I have with my Long Distance Partner.
But do you think that will ever make sex with that man from my job?
First I truly adore with all my heart my Long Distance Partner, he is without any doubt the”true love” of my life. And a relationship is a lot more than sex, and you also now that very well!
Second I don’t feel that I have sexual insatisfaction in my Long
I do use what I”learn” from several resources that you can find in internet, and which you can see in my website.
Now, with this, I’m not saying that I agree or disagree with the
Ones which make the option of Dating Others while they are in a Long Distance Relationship.
It is your choice, and today, you have also the numbers of the scientific study of Dr. Gregory Guldner and also my advice and my experience.
Are you struggling with the loneliness of your long distance relationship? Do not let it tear you apart!
My name is Maria Madeira, and just like you, I am at a Long Distance Relationship since 2003. Since then, I’ve been in all stages of Long Distance Relationship.
I know, exactly! What you are feeling! Allow me to help YOU!